How to Lead a Healthy and Active Life While Trying to Be a Great Mom and Partner

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8 months into this new life chapter of parenting and I have found pieces of myself that I didn’t know existed. Most days I find that I have unlimited patience, a knack for distracting a busy baby, and sometimes I cook a surprisingly good meal. The concept of life balance has really come to light as my household juggles a crawling baby, resident life schedule, college classes, and keeping a healthy relationship between all parties. Your belief system around your priorities completely shift once you have children, but a small voice in the back of your heart reminds you not to lose yourself in the mix.

Our family is tuning out this next week to enjoy some quality rest and recovery. We plan on recharging our batteries, and to work on a schedule for the next 3 months until our next vacation. What are our goals for those 3 months? What do we need to do to achieve them? How can we support each other to meet our goals? Wash, Rinse and Repeat.

As we head into the off-season for most of my readers, I want to take some time to recognize a change within my life and to reflect on the space that I see this community fulfilling for me and for you. One of the hardest things to figure out when becoming a mom, and then a stay at home mom, is how to be the best mom, wife, and partner you can be without losing yourself. Before motherhood I would identify myself as an athlete, and since motherhood I have lost that identity. My goals must be more realistic now that there is an adorable small human filling up my time but I plan on taking the next 3-6 months to better understand how to lead a healthy and active life while balancing the rest of it. Not only is this for myself, but it is for all women out there trying to juggle – and to teach my daughter that above all you are the sole provider of your happiness.

In the middle of November I will be teaming up with Carmichael Training Systems to break down those walls for the do-everything-woman. How do we be the best at everything? How do we fit in excercise around work, kids playdates, family budgets, grocery shopping, or late night homework assignments? The first step will be identifying some reasonable goals to work towards. Hopefully at the end of this next week from being unplugged I will come back with that list of tentative goals to share with you, and my coach.

Turning it over to you

What are your life-balance goals? How do you find the balance? How has your life changed in order to find that balance?

6 Comments on “How to Lead a Healthy and Active Life While Trying to Be a Great Mom and Partner”

  1. Ha. I have found fitting exercise into my life very difficult, especially because I work full time apart from being a mum and a wife. I am afraid exercise is oftentimes the first thing that suffers, as many a time I simply can’t get away to run or bike because I am either at work, or supervising hw at home. The only reliable exercise times I have are Sat and Sun morning between 6.30 and 8.30 am. This is not a complaint by the way … I adore my husband and sons … Just a fact. When there are children to look after, you can’t just go out for a run or sign up for a Pilates class… Someone needs to be home to stay with the kids! It is easier if granny lives close by I guess, but both my parents and my in- laws live far away. I have tried taking the boys out exercising with me, but they were not amused and probably rightly so … In any case, they go very slowly and get tired easily so nobody was happy. Biking with kids is a bit easier, but obviously distance and speed have to be adjusted so while it is fun it is not really exercise. As a result, I am 3 kilos heavier than I was!! A friend of mine who is really serious about exercise has just got an au pair, this gives her the freedom to disappear for an hour or so every day without having to constantly arrange babysitting. It works well for her!

  2. Everyone’s priorities are different but those who strive for athletic goals succeed when they have a support mechanism at home. There’s a time in life when happiness is result of one’s own efforts, then there’s a time when happiness is derived from the satisfaction that one’s home life is balanced and the relationships at home are fulfilling. Having a spouse that supports activities outside of parenting is key.

    If a mom is struggling with guilt, she needs to rethink her priorities and maybe downshift to enthusiast level instead of tatted racer. In the end, who benefits most, the bike or the child?

  3. Exercise and the commitment to a goal, including racing, is an important life value to share with our kids. I am a better mom when I work out regularly and we have had some great family memories at bike races, camping before and after bike races and watching our almost 4 year old participate in kids bike races. My child benefits when I am on my bike and allowed time to focus on myself. Being a mom doesn’t take away my desire to be strong and fast. Why should it? It’s a lot harder to be strong and fast now but racing is critical to the short, high intensity training most women need to stay fit and healthy.

    I don’t have time to thoughtfully reply right now, but this is an important discussion. I am very interested in hearing how families where both parents ride/race make it work.

  4. Being a mother and partner is definitely the higher priority, but, of course, if there’s a will there’s a way. Proper time management is everything that’s needed. To see you manage it well and not compromise your passions is inspiring!

  5. Owning a business and being a single mom makes training pretty challenging! I try to have a general plan but take one day at time and be flexible. Shorter workouts are key, as is (sadly) the trainer. Or I’ll get up at 5:30 and work so that I can sneak out for a mid day ride. Planning ahead is critical.

    My son loves to ride too and at 6 he’s able to enjoy some nice trails, so we get in some outdoor activity together. When we go out, I make it about him and practice having patience and no expectations. I used to run behind him but now we ride together. It’s not fast or a big workout but it’s so much fun to watch his excitement over clearing a root or making it up a particular hill for the first time. For racing I pretty much stick to CX, which is a pretty family friendly environment and there are lots of other kids around. It’s awesome to have my little fan on the side of the course pulling for me!

    I often talk with other parents who say they can’t have any of their own activities because they are too busy with their kids; I can tell some are critical of me for having them. I say you can have your own activity, but you have to really want it and I agree 100% with Emily Sportsman, who said having your own goals makes you a better parent (or something like that). I think kids benefit from watching their parents set personal goals and work toward them. It’s hard for them to understand your work goals but sports are great for teaching that lesson.

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